Archive for May, 2009

The BIG 19..!

Today’s May 31st 2009..!  19 years ago..my bro was born into the world…!

so… a big HAPPY 19th BIRTHDAY to Abdul Rahman a.k.a dromey a.k.a Doraemon…!

Just to let you guys know, my family usually does a kind of 3-in-1 birthday celebration at the beginning of June, for Dromey’s, the 3rd, and 4th siblings’ birthdays are all in one week!  But it seems this year it’s 2-in-1 since he’s in Egypt now :-(

So, Dromey…here’s 2 cakes sendin’ to ya express!! :-)   Text me when it arrives k!  ;-) …hoho…

May ALLAH keep you safe always, grant you his blessings till the end of time, and award you true contentment in this life moreover in the hereafter…AMEEN.

Gosh, you’re 19 already huh, Dromey…together becoming adults aren’t we.  It’s funny how as wittle kids, we took each other for granted.  I could have looked over you better…but what’s gone is gone..let’s not take the rest of our time for granted anymore ok.

As for your exam…Keep your grip in your studying, I know it’s a bit tough over there, but you can do it!  Your perseverance is strong, i know… Good luck in your next paper k… All the best little bro…!  Chow!

~*`*~ Subtle_Fortitude ~*`*~

Ehem:  got a little nostalgic there, but ya know, that’s how it’s like being a sentimental eldest sister…always worrying about all the younger siblings.  hm!  It’s not like I want to, it’s just somehow programmed in my system to be so.erk….

My Heart Speaks… (1)

Hearing about the difficult times and all the emotional tests my big-housmate-sisters here go through in getting the right person to marry make me think to myself man am I lucky I’m still young!!


Why is everyone getting married??? Argh..>!

OK…let me list down all the people that I know is getting married (in my head)… her, him, her, her, her….

All the friends getting engaged soon? her, him, her, erm then, her, her, her….and the list goes on

P/S: a special congrats to my special ‘big sis’ who just tied the knot on the 16th of May in Kuantan..!  Hope GOD blesses every second of your ‘new life’..!  :-)

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You see, my housmates are all older than me and most are at the ambang of graduating and going on with there next phase of adulthood:  preparation for berumahtangga.

….SO…story after story do I ‘accidentally’ listen to about all my big-housmate-sisters’ respective fairy tales and nightmares, plus complications in reaching their ‘happinesshood’.  Dilemmas here and there.  Having to make choices between 2 or 3 equally great guys (well, more accurately stated as gentlemen) that nak masuk meminang… Choices not parallel with what parents desire…happy times…sad times…the works!

What say me?

Hearing about the difficult times and all the emotional tests my big-housmate-sisters here go through in getting the right person to marry make me think to myself man am I lucky I’m still young!! …I don’t have to get my head all caught up in these emotional drag downs.  But obviously these are what all people go through in reaching true happiness after getting married; undergo test after test in finding the right person and finding the right time to get married.  Yup!  Young is great!! :-p

… Then …when hearing how one after another of my big-housmate-sisters receiving multiple ‘requests’, and how contented they are after they istikharah, and decide on the right person, I then start asking myself: When’s it my turn?  How would I know when the right time it is to ‘find’ that someone? I mean, most of my school friends already have someone they are confident will be ‘the one’ they’ll naik pelamin with one day.  Why shouldn’t I have someone?  Wouldn’t it be great if I too was confident with whom I’ll spend the rest of my life with? hmmm…

(It’s REALLY weird how I didn’t even think of all this junk last semester…is this the meaning of growing in maturity? haha…)

Hah! that’s all the heart of an average female adolescent speaking…!  :-) The natural voices of any single gal going through the ups and downs of adolescence.

…whatever it is… this is my STAND:

No Love til akad

The present time is 100% for Islam, family, and studies…

The remaining question here is:  When is the right time? :-)

~*`*~ Subtle_Fortitude ~*`*~

Ehem: My goodness!!!  it is true??? I’m actually talking about marriage..!!!

Ehem x2:  Hope you all don’t feel weird I’m suddenly pouring my heart out about this kind of stuff..!

10 Things you should NEVER say during a job interview

Put a mind-set that you WANT the place offered, so you have to show the best!

..And you are the best!

One of my close friends went for a job interview several days ago.  She didn’t tell me her intention in applying for any company that week, but she asked me to pray for her as she was at the verge of entering the interviewing room.

…And guess what, like  2 days after that, ALHAMDULILLAH, she got the desired post at AnBakri Publika Sdn Bhd!!! …one of my favourite book releasers :-) .  Congrats to you kak..!

Wow, lucky her, got in.

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I thought to myself, if I went on an interview, would I get the place I desiredDo I have the adequate level of confidence to please an employer?

Although I won’t be applying for anything till probably next year or the next, I tried to imagine myself as an interviewee… What should I not do?

Till this day, I have only been given the opportunity in entering 2 interviews:  One in applying for Pre-TESL 4 years ago, and an interview for In Person Consultancy and Training…That’s all.   Opportunities haven’t come by yet, I guess…xde rezeki lagi

I hear of friends going for interviews for a scholarship here and there. Friends who are called for interviews now and then tell me how they’re nervous and all, because they’re afraid they’ll make a slip of the tongue or afraid they’ll like freeze right then and there in front of the interviewer, or perhaps stutter or something.  Why be so?

To me, an interview is a chance to show your confidence!!  You see, these interviewers/employers don’t even know you.  They don’t have a clue that you get mad marks during your assessed-based presentations.  They don’t know that you’re the most passive person in your class.  They don’t know all that.  So it should be easy for you to act like you are the best presenter of the class.  act like you’re an active student…but in real life, you may not be so.

Now, don’t get me wrong… what I mean act here is not being a hypocrite or lying that you’re a best achiever in your faculty.  HOWEVER, what I mean is your MIND-SETTING.  Put a mind-set that you want the place offered, so you have to show the best! ..And you are the best!  The key here is PREPARATION.  Prepare your mind-set.  Confidence could slip in there.


Below are 10 tips on what to not say during a job interview.  The ones below are among the ones I believe are effective and straight to the point…They’re by Patty Inglish, MS.

Hope you can benefit from the tips …! :-)

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NEVER SAY THESE 10 THINGS

1. How much does the job pay?

2. What does your company make (or do)?

3. Do not use SLANG words or phrases in your job interview.

4. What can you do for me; what are the benefits like vacations, promotions and bonuses?

5. No profanity or cursing of any kind.

6. No stereotypical language.

7. Do not criticize any former employer.

8. If you are asked if you have any questions, don’t say “No.”

9. I don’t have any weaknesses.

10. Don’t tell them your life story.

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1. How much does the job pay?

Some people ask this question before the interviewer has a chance to even ask THEIR first question and this is a big mistake. It makes it seem as if all you are after is money. As a rule, wages and salaries are not discussed during the first interview. You may have three interviews altogether with one company. If money is discussed, it is up to the interviewer from the company to open up that subject. If they ask you how much money you want, have a range of salaries to give them and not a specific amount. First, research how much the job you want really pays in your town or state and then come up with a range of a yearly salary to request.

Let’s say an auto mechanic makes $35,000 a year in your city after working five years. When you apply to become an auto mechanic, state the range of pay you want as $32,000 – 38,000 a year. Or you could use a broader range, like $30,000 – $40,000 a year. Make sure it is a realistic range. For example, if a fast food full-time grillman in your town usually makes $13,000 per year, don’t interview at that restaurant and ask for $20,000 – $30,000 per year.

2. What does your company make (or do)?

A job candidate must research the company for which they want to work before going into a job interview with them. Look the company up on the Internet and read as much as you can about it and take notes. Try to find the company’s Annual Report and read it. Your local libraries can help you do that.

3. Do not use SLANG words or phrases in your job interview.

The interview is not a casual conversation with friends on a street corner or in a lounge. It is a formal conversation and requires the use of good English grammar. There is not time enough during an interview for the interviewer to figure out what you are talking about. They also should not HAVE to figure it out. On the other hand, even if they do understand you, you are being disrespectful and overly casual in the interview by using slang. You will also sound like you are playing and not serious about doing good work, and the interviewer won’t take you seriously. Just don’t do it.

4. What can you do for me; what are the benefits like vacations, promotions and bonuses?

Hiring officers and job interviewers like job candidates with self-confidence, but they do not like people who are selfish. The first interview you have with a company is all about what you can do for THEM. You are not doing them a favor by interviewing with them, so keep these questions until the second interview or until the interviewer opens up the subject. The interviewer will ask you why the company should hire you and then you can emphasize your skills, talents and contributions you have to offer them. Be prepared to tell clearly what specific ways you have helped your former employers.

5. No profanity or cursing of any kind.

You must never curse, cuss, or use any kind of profanity in any job interview.  Ethics of an interview candidate is closely given attention to.  Use of profanity may TOTALLY RUIN the ethical-aware image of an interview candidate.

6. No stereotypical language.

Do not refer to people of other genders, sexual orientations, nationalities, ethnicities, races, handicaps, religions or other diversity in any slang terms, slurs, or other denigrating language. Ever.

7. Do not criticize any former employer.

Bashing a former boss, or criticizing them in any way, lets the interviewer know that you will do the same to them if you leave their company.

Instead, you can explain that you had a difference of opinion with your former employer in work philosophies or styles. Do not dwell on your answer about an employer where things did not go so well for you, and make it short.

8. If you are asked if you have any questions, don’t say “No.”

Saying NO says to the interviewer that you are not very interested in the company and not very smart. So be smart. When you research the company before your interview, come up with at least three questions to ask about the company itself during the interview. For example, ask what plans they have to expand in the next 10 years, or ask what new products and services they might be considering. This is not the time to ask about salary and benefits, either.

9. I don’t have any weaknesses.

You will likely be asked what strengths and weaknesses you have. If you say you don’t have any, the interviewer will believe that you are lying or that you are not thinking. You can say that you don’t like to waste time on small talk and are working on being more friendly in the workplace. This is a positive “weakness.”

10. Don’t tell them your life story.

The interviewer will ask you to tell them a little about yourself, but this means where you went to school, what you accomplished in school, where you have worked, and how you have helped your former employers. It can include a little about hobbies and volunteer work, but don’t dwell on these things.

Don’t tell the employer anything that will lead them to knowing your age, race, gender orientation, religious beliefs, medical conditions, or other personal information. Legally, until they are offering you a job, the employer is not allowed to ask you if you are married, have children, or are planning these things in the future. They CAN ask you what certifications and licenses you have relevant to the position. If they ask you what nationality your last name is, politely answer that you don’t know how that is relevant to the job, but that you would like to discuss your qualifications. If they ask you how old you are, tell them that you will gladly provide that information after you are hired. The exception to this is if you need to be at least 18 years old to work for the company in the USA. If you are 21 and look young, you may have to answer this question. Lastly, do not bring up personal problems in a job interview, including divorce, breaking up with a girlfriend, bankruptcy, etc.

Source: 10 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER SAY DURING A JOB INTERVIEW

~*`*~ Subtle_Fortitude~*`*~

Ehem: Am in an ambitious mood..!  Can’t wait to step into the job world..! huhu… sabar, diriku, sabar

Imagine…

IMAGINE

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Imagine yourself after you pass away

Imagine your grave through night and through day

Wishing that you did not do as they say

Wishing that you had got up and had prayed.

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Imagine, my friends, the day that you died

Imagine all of the tears that they cried

Remember how it felt when your body was tied

Remember how it felt in the grave which you lied.

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Imagine the day you’ll be called to account

Imagine the sum to which your life will amount

Think for a moment of the deeds which you mount

Think for a moment how much they will count.

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What will they say of you when you are dead?

What will they say, what will be said?

Will they speak of all the poor who you fed?

Will they remember all the Qur`an that you read?

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Think not of them, but of Allah, Lord of mankind and jinn

Think of Allah when tempted to sin

Think of the paradise which you will dwell in

Don’t wait till later to think what might have been.

-Anonymous

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~*`*~ Subtle_Fortitude~*`*~

Ehem:  am in a slap-yourself-remember-that-you’re-gonna-die-one-day mood.

Buses in Kelantan are better than in Melaka..!

I couldn’t help but comment on this…

I have been staying in Melaka (away from my hometown) ever since I entered tertiary education (since 2005), so I have been using public transport since.  That’s 4 years!  And I still have several semesters left in completing my degree there… so…that makes it even longer in Melaka…

Yeah, Melaka Sentral’s a quite impressive bus station, but the domestic buses – which, to remind u, is what people go to Melaka Sentral for – are not great at all!

  • They wibble-wobble like they’re gonna runtuh anytime
  • The cleanliness…ermm..
  • dah la not comfortable, then they force the passengers to be packed-up like sardines, especially during rush hours..haih.

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Look at the buses in KB (above).  Kelantan added a huge fleet of new comfortable DOMESTIC traveling buses a few years ago.  Looks like express buses, doesn’t it?… However, friends, these are actually domestic buses…AIR COND…comfortable for any 30-minute ride.

Don’t want to sound materialistic, picky, pampered and all, but it makes me wonder what the Malaccan Government does with their money to ensure the comfort of Melaka’s dwellers.

I remembered watching these small kids with their bags entering a bus I was on with their big brother, in the heat of the afternoon. The bus was full so they had to stand. Felt sorry for them, so I offered my seat. But mine fitted only the two kids, their brother had to stand. So, that left me standing holding on to a pole, with my slippery-based sandals, holding for dear life as the bus driver swerved dreadfully at all turns.

Just to let u know…

Shopping complex after shopping complex is established in this state (The second Jusco in Melaka is in the making)…but has the state government realized the many Malaccan dwellers that don’t have the money to even step into these shopping complexes?  Welfare of the people in need should be given more focus to.


The real question I’m arising here is: Where does all Melaka’s money go to??

(Let’s all ask CM Ali Rustam…)

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~*`*~ Subtle_Fortitude ~*`*~

I couldn’t help but comment on this…

I have been staying in Melaka (away from my hometown) ever since I entered tertiary education (since 2005), so I have been using public transport since.  That’s 4 years!

Yeah, Melaka Sentral’s a quite impressive bus station, but the domestic buses – which, to remind u, is what people go to Melaka Sentral for – are not great at all!

  • They wibble-wobble like they’re gonna runtuh anytime
  • The cleanliness…ermm..
  • dah la not comfortable, then they force the passengers to be packed-up like sardines, especially during rush hours..haih.

bus1

Don’t want to sound materialistic, picky, pampered and all, but it makes me wonder what the Malaccan Government does with their money to ensure the comfort of Melaka’s dwellers.

I remembered watching these small kids with their bags entering a bus I was on with their big brother, in the heat of the afternoon. The bus was full so they had to stand. Felt sorry for them, so I offered my seat. But mine fitted only the two kids, their brother had to stand. So, that left me standing holding on to a pole, with my slippery-based sandals, holding for dear life as the bus driver swerved dreadfully at all turns.

Shopping complex after shopping complex is established in this state (The second Jusco in Melaka is in the making)…but has the state government realized the many Malaccan dwellers that don’t have the money to even step into these shopping complexes?

The real question I’m arising here is: Where does all Melaka’s money go to???

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